The Bloody Benders….. A Family of Serial Killers

A few nights ago, I was channel surfing looking for something to watch as my eyes grew heavy with sleep. Then, I stumbled upon a film on Tubi (https://tubitv.com/ which is a free streaming channel with lots of great films and t.v. shows. I highly recommend it! And like I said… It’s free! 😁)

Anywho…. A horror film caught my eye. The actors and actresses were people I was unfamiliar with and there wasn’t loads of cinematic action, romance…. etc… So, why did this movie grab my attention?

Because of its description… And here it is…. “The real-life story of America’s first serial killer family, the infamous “Bloody Benders,” that terrorized homesteaders in late-19th century Kansas.” ~ https://tubitv.com/movies/514711/bender

“The Bender family, more well known as the Bloody Benders, were a family of serial killers who lived and operated in Labette County, Kansas, United States, from May 1871 to December 1872.[1] The family consisted of John Bender, his wife Elvira and their son John Jr. and daughter Kate. ” ~ https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bloody_Benders

Even though my eyes were heavy and I was ready to drift off to sleep, I couldn’t resist wanting to watch this film all because it was based on true events. I was like, “A serial killer family? From the 1800s? Why was this the first time I was hearing about this?!?!” This family was alleged of killing several people.

I watched it and was tripping the whole time. Without giving any spoilers, the premise of the movie is about a doctor who is traveling out on the prairie. He happens upon an old house, literally out in the middle of nowhere, stops for groceries, a meal and a night’s lodging. All hosted by the Bender family which consists of an older couple, their daughter and young son. Well, he takes to their kindness and then falls victim to their murderous ways. Later, the doctor’s brother stumbles upon the house in search of his missing brother. He takes a liking to the daughter, but unlike his brother, was able to escape the murderous family’s acts…. You’ll have to watch the film to see how it ends because I don’t want to ruin the film for ya..

But according to several reports, this nefarious family was never… let me repeat…. NEVER….. caught! A family of serial killers…. Loose…. Never caught…. OMG, really?! That is freaky!! Chills!!

Anyway…. Check it out for yourself if you’re into history and films based on true events. It was insane! The whole story still freaks me out!

My Aversion with the Ouija Board

More than two decades have passed since the night I played with the infamous Ouija Board. Thinking back, not really sure what was going through my head and what prompted me to attempt such nefarious communication. Perhaps the notion could have been given credit due to the thought of innocent play, but after witnessing a few things, there was nothing innocent proven about it.

It was at night and I was with two others. We were just three teenagers looking for something to do and there were no adults around. So, we lit some candles in the room we were in and also in the room next to us. The atmosphere was all aglow with amber lighting as we readied the spirit board. Once the planchette was placed, we silenced our speech and cleared our minds. With our fingers on the communicative tool, we asked our first question, “is there anyone here?”. Moments passed and nothing happened. We were patient and asked again. That’s when the planchette moved. Even though the movement was slight, it was still quite detected. Of course, we asked each other who was causing the action, but we all vowed that we weren’t responsible.

The room was beginning to feel a bit tense, but we decided to continue. We asked a few more questions like, “who are you?” and “when did you die?”…. the typical questions of curiosity. What we got in response seemed innocent enough. We were told that the spirit was a female who had died many years prior in a train wreck. That’s when I started to feel uneasy because we were at home, way out in the country and there weren’t any train tracks around for many miles.

Then, we asked if the spirit was there to cause us any harm and we were told “no”. After that, we proceeded to ask if the spirit ever thought about coming back as a living person in the form of reincarnation. It replied that it already had done that, meaning that it had already been reborn.

Our hearts raced and the looks on our faces were of shock and confusion, but we continued by asking “who have you been reincarnated into?” It answered with the name of an individual with whom I hold very, very dear…. someone that I knew in fact had not been inhabited by the spirit. We questioned the spirit on how it could have been reincarnated as someone we knew among the living, if they were communicating with us by use of the Ouija Board. A long, awkward pause lingered. There was no response through the planchette, but a candle that was sitting very securely in the center of a table in the next room, all of a sudden fell over, making a loud noise. There was no explanation to how the candle could have fallen because we were all three hovering over the spirit board and there was no one else in the house.

As frightened as we were, we asked the spirit one last question, “did you cause the candle to fall over?” It’s reply was, “yes”.

Immediately, we stopped playing with the Ouija Board and quickly put it away. The remainder of the night we stayed wide awake, too scared to sleep. To this day I don’t know what ever happened to that Ouija Board and I don’t really care, but I do know one thing for certain and that is…… I will never mess with a spirit board ever again.

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“Why?” vs “What?”….. The key to empowering ourselves….

In our darkest moments we all too often fall victim to the sobbing of “Why is this happening to me?” . It’s easy to lay blame onto that which we do not understand…. easy to give up and simply throw in the towel. But by doing so, what does that actually teach us?

Self-doubt, low self esteem, inner conflicts due to anxiety and depression….the list goes on…. So many factors play into the “Why me?” scenario. Unfortunately, we have all had moments like these. And the important thing to know is…. It’s ok to have an “off day“. By having one doesn’t mean that we are bad people or that the whole world is crumbling, even though that’s exactly what it feels like is happening during those times.

But if we change our perspective from “why is this happening to me?” to “what is this trying to teach me?“, then we change our mindset. We begin to start looking for lessons that are meant to be learned from our experiences. Lessons that can help strengthen our “mind, body and spirit” . And by doing so, empowering ourselves to be the wonderful individuals that we all are meant to be on a daily basis.

Having an “off day” is ok. It’s the dark moments that help us to see the light, sometimes that’s when the stars seem to shine their brightest!

So, the next time we face adversity, let’s look for the lesson that’s meant to be learned instead of focusing on the problem that can prevent us from moving forward.

You are beautiful, strong and you rock! Spread your wings and fly! 😉

~ Sheila 💋

Never Give Up!

“Never give up on your aspirations. Sometimes life is funny and can get in the way with simple distractions, but don’t let that stop you. If you have a dream, then go for it. You have the power to make it manifest itself into something fantastic, so mesmerizing that it has the possibility to astonish even the most daring of minds. Dream on and make it a reality.” ~ Sheila Renee Parker

Stay strong and always stay blessed! 🤗

The Paranormal & Me

All my life the paranormal has always been there, and I don’t mean that I’ve been plagued by demons or anything sinister. It was never like that for me. Still, when I saw my first shadow person prior to my teen years, it scared the living daylights out of me. It manifested itself just out of the corner of my eye. It was night time in a very well-lit room. I could feel its eyes looking straight at me. That was what prompted me to look in its direction. As soon as I turned my head to meet its gaze, it vanished into thin air. Even though its presence was nothing malevolent, I was still terrified to no end. I stayed up all night, too afraid to sleep, until the sun came up the next morning.

I’ve had several encounters with shadow people throughout the years since then, but I’m no longer afraid. Unlike many people who have negative encounters with shadow people, mine are quite the opposite. I experience no malevolence at all with shadow people. It’s almost like I get a sense of observance from them. Their presence is always “split-second” when they appear, then they’re gone.

I’m also an empath. Always knew I was different, but never knew how to “label” my ability until I reached my adult years. An empath is someone who is highly sensitive (in the supernatural sense) to others’ energies and emotions. To many, this ability is often thought of as a curse. I used to think this way as well and that was only because I didn’t understand what was going on. But now it’s no longer a curse for me. Rather, I consider it a gift that I’m very proud to have.

Growing up I usually kept quiet about the paranormal, only spoke to very few about it. My selective silence was due to the judgmental fear of what others thought. I didn’t want anyone to think I was crazy. So often is the paranormal viewed by many as something that’s dark and evil. Although, that’s not necessarily the case. The paranormal realm does consist of entities that may bring forth malevolence, but so does the world of the living. There are wicked people that walk around every single day. Spirits can also be very loving and full of light. However the spirit was during their living state, is how they often are once they have passed on. Meaning, that a person can carry on the same characteristics even after death.

The study and research of paranormal activity is extremely fascinating to me. I openly embrace the unknown, but with caution. I never provoke the spiritual world. I would never recommend doing that. Don’t provoke the living and don’t provoke the dead. It’s all about respect, I believe. And just because someone finds interest in the paranormal doesn’t mean that they’re living a “dark life and going straight to hell”. That’s for the narrow minded to believe. To better understand things, one must open their mind. Knowledge is never ending. One of my all time favorite quotes is by Michelangelo. It says, “I am still learning.” … and yes, for me that even applies to the paranormal.

The Frog Totem

Recently, I was outside taking trash to the bin. When I lifted the lid to toss the bag in, a bright green tree frog immediately jumped onto the inside of my left bicep. I freaked! Seriously! Those who know me best know that the little jumping creatures make my skin crawl. I have never liked frogs….. Ever! Well, except for Kermit and his nephew Robin from the Muppets…. Those two, I love! The reason for my dislike of frogs? When I was a little girl my older brothers would chase me around with them…. siblings…. gotta love them, right?! Lol

Anywho…. The day that the frog jumped onto my arm I made a silly post on social media about it, basically laughing at myself. Someone commented and said that frogs were actually messengers with good vibes. So I looked it up and, loe and behold, here is what I read….

The frog as spirit animal or totem reminds us of the transient nature of our lives. As symbol of transition and transformation, this spirit animal supports us in times of change. Strongly associated with the water element, it connects us with the world of emotions and feminine energies, as well as the process of cleansing, whether it’s physical, emotional, or more spiritual or energetic.
Frog Symbolism
The symbolism of the frog appears in many traditions around the globe. This animal is generally associated with the water element and its cleansing attributes. The frog is symbolic of:

Cleansing
Renewal, rebirth
Fertility, abundance
Transformation, metamorphosis
Life mysteries and ancient wisdom” ~ https://www.spiritanimal.info/frog-spirit-animal/

The frog is a water sign, which I found to be interesting because my zodiac sign is Pisces (another water sign). Coincidence? Some may say yes, but I believe everything happens for a reason. And with the way the frog jumped onto my arm like it did, maybe it was helping me to face a fear? Who knows… But since then, I feel more confident thanks to the little guy and my research on the meaning of its totem. Another reason to be blessed! Life is beautiful!

Also, several years back a dear friend of mine found a phone charm of a frog that she gave to me as a joke. But ya know what? I kept it and unfortunately since she gave it to me, she’s passed on. I’m glad I kept the charm. It makes me smile and think of her every time I look at it.

And a few years ago, another friend of mine went to the Caribbean for a vacation. When she returned, she gave me a multicolored beaded wooden frog that she said she literally watched being handmade. Even though she knew how frogs made me feel, she still wanted to give it to me because it’s covered in several beautiful colored beads. I was honored to accept her gift.

So, with all this being said…. My appreciation for frogs has grown greatly. They’re wonderful symbols with so much positivity about them!

Counting blessings one day at a time! ❤️

~ Sheila 💋

Just do it…. 😉

Be selfless and not selfish. A simple act of kindness can literally speak volumes to someone in need.

Stay blessed! ❤️

The Third Eye Kiss

Such a wonderful, healing gesture that takes very little effort, yet can do so much for an individual.

All one has to do is softly press their lips on the forehead of another, in the center, slightly above the eyebrows. It’s that simple. What does this beautiful act do? “It activates the pineal and pituitary gland of the person and brings a sense of security and well-being to the person.” ~ www.WisdomHealingCenter.com.

When the glands are stimulated, melatonin is released which is a hormone that humans and animals produce that regulates sleep and wakefulness. Hence, a goodnight kiss on the forehead might be just what the doctor could order for those who may be suffering from insomnia.

Here is something else I found interesting. Our pineal glands produce the most potent psychedelic known to man, dimethyltryptamine. Researchers of dimethyltryptamine suggest that it may help encourage personal empowerment, decrease the symptoms of depression and anxiety, and inspire self esteem, just to name a few. So, with all that being said about the pineal gland, it makes even more sense why the third eye kiss is so beneficial to one’s well-being!

It could also bridge the gap between two souls wanting to connect on a more spiritual level, therefore creating a closer bond with the mind, body and Spirit….. a Universal connection on so many levels.

 

“You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one. I hope someday you’ll join us. And the world will live as one.” ~ John Lennon

 

 

 

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It’s great to be alive!!

Hope you’re all off to a fantastic start! Remember to pay it forward with those beautiful smiles and positive vibes!

Massive love to you all! YOU ROCK!!!

~ Sheila 💋